People who tend to make the most headway and those who tend to spend less time waiting -  don’t rely on corporate endorsement before taking action.

That’s not to say they take mad, irresponsible decisions and buck the system just to be rebellious. No, they are considered and are 99.9% sure of them-self.  However, they are  unhampered by the great corporate unsaid:

Ask around enough and someone will say no, squash your idea or find rules and processes to grind you to a halt. 

Although I have frequently been guided by the North East principle that “Shy bairns get nowt”.  (Translation! “If you don’t ask  – you will never receive”) the guiding thought should be ‘don’t ask – just do it’.

Colin Powell said ‘Less effective middle managers endorse the sentiment, “If I haven’t explicitly been told ‘yes,’ I can’t do it,” whereas the good ones believed, “If I haven’t explicitly been told ‘no,’ I can.”  There’s a world of difference between these two points of view.

Use the 5 point progress checker before asking for permission:

  1. Are you asking for permission because it’s a habit and you have not learnt to be guided by your own self belief…. yet?
  2. The one you are seeking endorsement from – how likely is it that they need to demonstrate their  jobs worth status by declining acts of initiative?
  3. Does your boss actually want to be bothered with your permission seeking or would they rather you just got on and delivered the end result – how ever you go about it?
  4. It’s easier to get forgiveness than permission – are you fearful of having to explain things if you intuition does not work out?
  5. Remember, if you end up as the buck stops here leader,  there will be no one to ask – get used to it.

 

I have a few Coaching slots available, but likely not for long. If you want support in the leap from capable manager to confident leader I’m happy to talk you through the scenario – you don’t need anyones permission!

Have a great week.

 

Bring your year end to a definite conclusion and start 2012 with a clear direction. (Why wouldn’t you?)

Myself and Mrs. Fox sit down every year about this time with a glass of sherry and a mince pie and run through the following ‘completion exercise’. In doing so we have tied up and reflected on our last year, giving consideration to accomplishments and setting the tone for what lies ahead. It’s actually really rewarding and quite pleasant!:

  • What did I accomplish both personally and professionally? (Everything counts from landing business deals to surviving another year as a parent with everyone intact!)
  • What difficulties did I have to overcome to realise those accomplishments?
  • What qualities and strengths did I evoke to handle those difficulties?
  • Given all the above what is now possible for me this next year? (Your 12 month personal and professional goals)

 

All the very best for an extra-ordinary 2012.

Paul

IÂ was talking with a client who was a bit low on spirits and energy. I asked him a question:

“Tell me all the things that you are doing both personally and professional that make you happy?”

Client: ………. Silence, long silence ( I was getting worried) followed by “Not much at all really”

Me in response: “Then you don’t deserve to be happy.”

A bit harsh perhaps, but true. If you don’t do things that lift your spirits and make you happy why on earth would you expect to feel happy?

If you are not very happy it shows. Maybe people around you don’t exactly see that you are a miserable bugger, but your dissatisfaction will seep out of your pores and they’ll pick it up.

Not brilliant… if you want to be a role model of someone who takes care of themselves, has a clear picture of who they are and what they need to be to be happy. Yer, whatever the circumstances or vehicle, bottom line is people want to be happy.

Me, I really do want to spend all my time with people who have vitality, energy, joy and take their work but not themselves seriously. Why wouldn’t you?

I remain strongly committed to talking about happiness (sometimes in the face of corporate ridicule). Why? Because I believe happiness is our authentic nature, and for that reason happiness brings out the best in us, both individually and collectively.

So my friend the client writes down a list of all the things that make him feel happy and he takes action to make some, if not all, of them alive again. Because it takes effort to be happy as in any other worthwhile venture. I have my list too and we are having a bit of bloke competitive thing to see who can make the most progress before Xmas.

PS Your list likely has two columns. Happiness Producing & Happiness Draining. It’s tough to produce if its going straight down the drain. Eliminating drains is equally as important.

PPS Correct. I always wanted to be Fonzie…

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